Dear Reader.
Often, we feel like we have no control over our lives. It’s as if we spawned in a game where our minds are preprogrammed on what to do and say. You start to feel like your life is a simulation; no matter what you do, you can never win, whether trying to break a generational curse or financial situation or get out of a dead-end town. You feel stuck. So, here are some tips to help out with that!
Tip 1. Take Accountability ! !
The first step in regaining control of your life is accountability. Start looking around you and recognizing the things you do that keep you where you are. You must stop blaming the universe for every bad decision, accident, and mistake that happens in your life.
You can’t gain control of your life if you can’t control your mindset. You’re subconsciously scared to take the steps necessary to better yourself, so you avoid the responsibility. All of a sudden, the excuse is time. You never have enough time to start working out, to start a business, or to start anything.
When will you finally make the time to prioritize your wants and dreams? The only thing holding you back is fear. You’re scared of failure, success, and of people watching you try. But if you never try. If you never put yourself out there. How will you ever know what you could’ve done?
It’s time to stop living in a world of possibility and probability, and as Nike says, Just Do it.
TIP 2: Stop Telling People Your Plans ! !
All you do is run your mouth with no actions behind it. You keep telling people you will start working out, apply for a job, and start a YouTube channel, but what have you done?
You project your thoughts onto other people, thinking they will hold you accountable when they are not. That is not their job. At best, their job is to support you on your journey. Yet, have you started it?
At first, you were excited, right? Then you talked to one friend, and they said, ‘Man, you’re crazy.’ Later, you brought this up to your mom, and she said she ‘doesn’t think you’re built for it.’ Now, those dreams and visions of your life are getting dimmer and dimmer. Until now, they’re a flicker.
Yet, that flicker is vital because every year, it sparks until the cycle continues.
The sad truth is that some people in your life won’t believe in the path you envision for yourself. To them, it’s a far-fetched idea that only ‘lucky’ people can achieve. Yet, who says you can’t be just as lucky? What is the difference between them and you? The answer is their ability to try.
Tip 3: Start Throwing Spaghetti At The Wall !
Once you look at your life and understand what holds you back, start throwing spaghetti at the wall. In this phase, you need to be your best friend and cheerleader.
Even taking little steps, such as waking up early, all you need to do is get into a routine. Make time for what you want to do; consistency is key. Plus, the faster you fail, the quicker you will start to succeed.
You will face rejection, and something will fail miserably, but eventually, something will stick. You have to feel deep in your bones that you’re meant to do whatever you plan to do because it’s going to suck.
But, never be scared of hard days when you want to give up because that builds your character. You getting knocked down and you getting back up is what makes you.
Sadly, nothing in life comes easy. Yet, trying is the only way to break whatever shackles you think are holding you back. Every day, you need to show up for yourself so that you can thank yourself later.
A lot of times in life, we feel helpless when that really isn’t the case. There are things and tools available, but we are so blind and ego-driven that we can’t see them. Then, at night, we dream of the life we could have. We become bitter at those who achieve it. Then, we never achieve the happiness we deserve.
So, In Conclusion.
There are many ways to start taking control of your life. Just remember that it begins with you. You need to understand why you feel like you’ve lost control. Who do you feel controlled by, and why do they have the reigns?
Then, you have to take accountability as an adult. We like to pass our problems on to others instead of taking the blame. We’ve been doing that since childhood. Being kids and yelling ‘I didn’t do it’ loud in the sky to avoid getting in trouble. But the problem is already here. It’s standing behind you, breathing down your neck, looming like a shadow.
It’s time to stop calling them demons and start healing your mind. Then, once you’re right in the mind, go take over the world. But be wary of who you tell your plans to; your family and friends can be your biggest haters.
After that, start throwing things at the wall. You know where you’re going in life and have many ideas on how to get there. So, start trying them. Do everything you can so that when something finally sticks, you can be happy.
Lastly, in life, we see a path our family members walk down and refuse to follow it. It’s just that most of us don’t know how to do that, even though the answer has been inside of us all along.
Love, Missy
THE END.